Imagine growing up
with a voice. You choose how you spend your time and with whom. You choose
what you eat, what you wear, when you sleep, and where you go. Not only
is your life truly what you make it, you have experienced advisors to
help you make your dreams reality. These advisors truly want what you
want. They offer loving support and respectful advice. There are no rules,
no boundaries, no restrictions beyond what you discover for yourself.
This is what being a child in a TCS family means to me.
forum at Sage Parenting
TCS/NCP/CPF definitions & descriptions
This is a support forum for people who are interested in TCS/CPF/NCP.
We welcome earnest questions and answers, and it is our intent to reply
to all posters with compassion and respect. People wishing to debate these
theories should not post here, but in The
Ring or at the TCS
TCS = Taking Children Seriously
"TCS is an educational philosophy. Its most distinctive feature is
the idea that it is possible and desirable to bring up children entirely
without doing things to them against their will, or making them do things
against their will, and that they are entitled to the same rights, respect
and control over their lives as adults." --Former TCS website. See
Sarah Fitz-Claridge's "Introduction
to TCS" for more information.
CPF = Common Preference Finding
"A common preference is a solution to a problem, or resolution of
a disagreement, that all parties prefer to their prima facie positions,
and to all other candidate solutions they can think of. It is the solution
that pleases everyone involved in the disagreement. " --TCS
NCP = NonCoercive Parenting
"Our definition of coercion makes precise the idea of being compelled
to act against one's own will:
By “coercion” we mean:
1.the psychological state of enacting one idea or impulse while a conflicting
impulse is still active in one's mind.
This leads to some subsidiary meanings:
2.the action of intentionally or recklessly placing someone in a state
of enacting one theory while a rival theory is still active in the person's
3.behaviour that is intended, or likely, to do this.
Intentionally or recklessly to place someone in a state of coercion (1);
or to behave in a way that is intended, or likely, to do this.
Likely to place someone in a state of enacting one theory while a rival
theory is still active in his or her mind. "
For more information please visit the TCS